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May 10, 2023·edited May 10, 2023Liked by S.E. Reid

Lessons without context:

1- Don't Sin

2- Be Honest, always.

3- Be willing to walk away

4- Don't apologize unless you've done something wrong.

4a- Apologize quickly, sincerely, and once only. Make it count.

4b- Just to make the reciprocal explicit: Don't apologize just to make peace. That kicks-the-can. Solve whatever the problem is. If the problem is you, own it. (edit) If the problem is *not* you--don't apologize for it.

5- You cannot give what you do not have. If you have no joy, you cannot bring joy to people. Substitute whatever you want in that formula. Don't forget to invest in yourself.

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May 10, 2023Liked by S.E. Reid

Dr. Phil may be a celebrity psychologist, but he said something on which my wife and I often reflect: "We won't take action until the pain of same outweighs the pain of change." Pain takes many forms, from the debilitating kind to the annoying pebble-in-the-shoe kind. But whatever form pain takes, there's almost always a lesson buried there -- along with an invitation, perhaps. Is this pain I'm experiencing really a call to change? The Holy Spirit nudge is persistent!

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I always come back to the realization that pain, as unfortunate as it may be, is absolutely essential to growth. Whether that be growth as in literal physical recovery or growth as in the drawing closer to Christ. It is essential that we suffer somewhat and die to ourselves that we may live as the light of Christ.

An acorn must breakdown before it becomes the mighty oak. So must we.

Sorry. I know that's very heavy but this topic has actually been front of mind for me lately.

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May 10, 2023Liked by S.E. Reid

I am a big, big, believer in what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I strongly believe how well we endure pain is proportionate to the amount of love we let into our lives.

Pain is just information that something isn't right. Sometimes there's an action to take to rectify that, sometimes we just have to surrender to its presence, and it will pass.

Pain makes us realize what is at stake, and hopefully encourages us to treat life more preciously, as the gift it is.

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I just published an article yesterday about this called The Classroom of Disappointment (loosely based on James 1:2-4) about what we learn through experiencing trials in life. Pain would certainly qualify as a trial. I love personal growth discussions. We all benefit from reading about the wisdom gained from experiencing the pain and disappointments that are part of life's package deal.

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